Can I Trust Myself Yet? #AuthorToolbox

Last night I did a thing I swore I wouldn’t do. Totally unscripted, unplanned, off-the-chain writer moment: I sent a manuscript to an agent while its fifth beta was still running.

giphyMaybe I’ll kick myself about this a week from now when the betas finish, or even months from now when I hear back from the agent, but I stand by my (second) decision. Why?

I decided to trust myself.

Over the last few years, I’ve noticed something predictable and tragic about the writing community. When we writers aren’t over-the-top in love with our work, we’re plagued by self-doubt. Anxiety, depression, and bouts of insecurity are frequent topics in every writing group I’ve worked with, and it’s almost always associated with how we interact with our works in progress. giphy10Drafting, revising, editing, querying, waiting–we have these loops of emotions that are exhausting to feel, excruciating to watch, and, if you don’t love the work, it’s really not worth the pain. If you do love the work, buckle in, buddy.

Tell me if this sounds familiar . . .

The Noob: I don’t know if I have what it takes to finish this first draft. What if it sucks? What if I suck? I don’t know what I’m doing!

giphy4Noob + a finished draft: This is a masterpiece, a bestseller waiting to be discovered! I knew I was destined to be an author. I should pick a pen name to protect my family from the inevitable fame heading my way.

Noob + first rejection: I’m an idiot, a total freaking idiot./OR/ There must be something wrong with the person reading, if they don’t like my story.

Noob + first critique: Why are you (critiquer) so hard on me? Who are you—Stephen King? You just don’t get my story.

giphy6Noob + several critiques: [Googles unfamiliar craft terms] Why didn’t I know this before? I’m a reader; I should know these things! What’s wrong with me?

Did I hit a nerve yet? This is just the beginning. Advance ahead several months or years to where the writer now has a few more drafts, maybe even a handful of manuscripts . . .

Hopeful author + surprising critique: Um, are you sure that’s how dialog tags/paragraph breaks/POV/etc. works? But I thought ______ and [Googles reputable craft sources]—Oh. 😦 See you in a few weeks, guys. I have a lot of editing to do.

giphy1Hopeful author + rejection: Why am I even trying anymore? Nobody wants this story. I should trash the whole thing and focus on housework/job/family. Anything less hard than writing.

Hopeful author + writing slump: I suck. Seriously, everything I do is crap. I’m wasting my life. Why did I ever think I could do this?

giphy5Hopeful author + recovery from writing slump: I have all the answers now! I’m like a god!

(By the way, readers, that’s me above. All of them. I’m not ashamed to admit it.)

It doesn’t stop there, though. Do you think the drama ends when a hopeful author signs with an agent and sells their debut? I’m not naming names (because that would be shitty), but I know handfuls of agented/published authors who are in the same boat with the rest of us hopefuls and noobs. It’s a roller coaster, y’all.

giphy3Published author + rejection of sophomore draft/proposal: I’m a one-hit wonder. I wrote the best thing I could, and now I have no stories left/ nobody wants the other stories I want to write.

Published author + writing slump: It was never this hard before. I’m stuck. My career is over. Y’all go on without me.

Published author to noob: Read these books on craft! Once you nail XYZ, you’re going to blow them away!

giphy7Published author to hopeful author: I, personally, don’t like the choices you’re making with this work. You should do XYZ like I did instead.

Published author + great review: I always knew I could do it! This is what I was born for!

giphy2Published author + bad review: Who am I? They’re wrong, right? Somebody who likes me, please tell that reviewer they’re wrong?

Is there a lesson in all this? Beats me, I’m just a “hopeful”.  Maybe it’s “Plow through the hard times” or “Don’t get full of yourself”? For today, I’m going with “Do your best and suck it up.”

giphy8What I do know (for sure, I think) is that we writers have millions of big and small decisions we must make with everything we write. From naming characters, animals, cities, plants, food, technology to deciding what’s right and wrong or normal or strange in the worlds we create. Then there’s diction and pacing, whether subplot B should come before major plot point A, or whether it’s all right to have a prologue or make up languages or label POVs–all we ever do as writers is make choices. It’s no wonder we wobble between extremes the way we do–individually and as a community.

There is no checklist of “right things” that will resonate with every reader, nor is there a magic wand to make a weak story strong or a strong story a bestseller. And, while there are loads of experts on craft, I have yet to see all the craft experts align 100% on any topic that mattered enough to me to investigate.

So . . . there’s a 50 % chance I won’t trust myself tomorrow, but I can choose to trust right now. I ask myself:

  • Have I studied SPAG, tense, plot structure, pacing, world building, and characterization thoroughly and applied what I learned to the manuscript?
  • Are my betareaders/critiquers in agreement about anything right/wrong in the text?
  • Are my readers squirming or squeeing where I planned for them to squirm and squee (even if they truly HATE the squirming parts)?
  • Do I feel confident about my choices even when a reader doesn’t like them?

giphy9When the answer is an operatic “Yes!” then it’s time to trust.

Send that story away and cross your fingers, light a candle, say a prayer, take a nap, whatever.

There will always be something that could be better/more universally-pleasing, expanded or cut or changed to suit XYZ readers who come along, but, at some point, making those continual changes means writing a completely different story.

What are some writing choices you’ve struggled with trusting yourself to make? How do you manage the writing ups and downs of self-doubt and confidence? Leave me a comment and let me know! #AuthorToolboxBlogHop


14 thoughts on “Can I Trust Myself Yet? #AuthorToolbox

  1. I’ve definitely been in many of these places before! And currently I’m working on finalizing a draft of a novel I’ve been editing for over a year now… I’ve reached the point where I am ready to call it done and send it out into the world. There will always be new things that could be adjusted or tweaked or changed, but the point comes when the story is ready and a new plotbunny can take its place. It’s just having the confidence to say “You’re ready!” to that story that’s the hard part. XD

    I wish you the best with your recent submission! I hope you hear good things back, rejection or no. 🙂

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  2. I think the hardest part is letting go. “There will always be something that could be better” is so true. However, sometimes you just have to send it out into the world and trust yourself. Thanks for sharing your struggles with the insecurities we all face as writers.

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  3. This is encouraging (and scary) to read. The repeating loops of excitement, grandiose visions, fears, misgivings, and doldrums are already familiar and have been familiar for quite a while, now.

    The one thing I haven’t changed about the novel I’m currently editing for what I hope is the last time is how it opens — 30+ years before the main characters are born. I introduce and follow two characters who never meet the main characters through a couple chapters that are more than a prologue to the main story, but are disconnected and self-contained.

    Readers/critiquers so far like the way the novel starts and they become engaged with the characters who kick the story off. I worry that out there in the big scary world, readers may find the first couple of chapters off-putting or disappointing when those early characters leave the stage and others take their place.

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  4. I LOVE this post. Being able to trust in your writing is definitely a journey, and one that requires a lot more thought and attention than I think people realize. Finding the line between personal creativity and publishability is tricky, but it can be done. I think you’ve nailed most (if not all!) of the different stages of writing grief, and it’s helpful to know that other writers go through this, too.

    Great post! And thank you for this!

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  5. LOL. This was very entertaining. It’s so true that it’s hard to know when your manuscript is ready to share. Especially when it’s your first manuscript. For me learning how to self-edit was the way to gaining confidence. Although…it’s ways tough to hit that send button with the lurking question of: should I change one more thing?

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  6. Wow, you’ve nailed a lot of the “developing writer” process. For me, my first book was about learning all the stuff I needed to know to write my second book. The first book is still going out on query, and I still love it and believe in it, but the second book has already proven everything I’ve learned to be worth it. The interest it has generated pre-query, and the relative cleanliness of the first draft compared to the other book’s first draft… all of this leads me to believe that I’m getting there, slowly but surely. Sometimes you just have to let go of one story and start another to graduate from Noob to Hopeful.

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  7. Funny, poignant, and all too true — from “noob” to “PA,” it never does go smoothly, pleasantly, calmly to the top, does it? Best of luck — keep us posted with your progress — and whatever wonderful terms you come up with to describe the middle place between aspiring and accomplished…

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  8. What a great breakdown of the stages of an author’s career. And thank you for iterating my ongoing dilemma: am I doing this right? It’s so hard, like you say, when there’s no consensus on so many of the craft issues/topics that seem so important to the publishing world. I had to google SPAG, like, oh my, a craft term I’m unfamiliar with. What am I doing wrong now? I was so relieved to find it stood for spelling and grammar. Phew! I think I’m pretty good in that area. Yea! Thank you so much for contributing this post to the #AuthorToolboxBlogHop. You’re awesome Jess! Scheduling pins and Facebook posts for this now.

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  9. I have never had the guts to submit a manuscript, but I once self-published after NaNoWriMo (you know, the whole free 5 copies things they used to do through CreateSpace?) I even got really brave and put the horrible unedited thing on Amazon as an e-book. People have bought it (at $0.99) and no one has reviewed but no one has demanded their money back either.

    I hope that someday I will feel more confident in my writing.

    And good luck, I hope the agent loves your story!

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